How to Let the Lord Be Your Helper

How to Let the Lord Be Your Helper

21.1 My Story

My wife’s diagnosis of Melanoma Cancer broke my heart. I promised myself I would be there for her. I would be there in good times. I would be there in bad times. I would care for her and celebrate every time we received good news. I would be there to hold, comfort, and pray for her when the diagnosis was terrible, and when she had a bad day.

My ego initially got in the way as I wanted to prove I was the super, best husband ever. I tried to model for the world how to love your wife and care for her.

If I were sincere, I wanted the pat on the back and acclaim of family, coworkers, and friends for being the gold-standard in caregiving. I know I also wanted a well done from Jesus.

After her initial surgery, many people offered help. I took off a couple of weeks from work to care for her. Her sisters flew into town to see how she was doing and help.

All this time, I declined more help than I accepted. My Bible fellowship class provided meals and gift cards. They were a blessing.

Over time we adjusted to the treatments, a new life routine, and we received fewer offers of help. My stubbornness to accept help continued.

As time passed, I grew weary and had caregiving start to consume most of my waking hours. My saying no to offers for assistance and help was especially true when Miss Benita had follow-up surgeries. Through this time, I found myself feeling guilty when someone else helped. I felt like a failure. It was as if I wasn’t doing it all myself that I wasn’t the man or husband I was supposed to be.

During her 1001 days after the initial surgery, I was faithful in spending time with the Lord. However, the caregiving took a toll. I developed oral lichen planus, lichen planus, and irritable bowel disease while caring for my spouse. All are autoimmune diseases, and the physicians think stress can contribute to the illnesses. I handled the situation so poorly I made myself sick.

I wonder how much more challenging it would have been if I hadn’t spent time with the Lord daily and asked him for his help?

In the last five months of my wife’s life, I had someone with me daily helping. I know God touched my wife’s sisters’ heart to be with her. Family surrounded my wife when she passed away. I was holding my wife’s hand and talking with her as she passed into eternity. Her sisters were present. All three of our children were there. Her best girlfriend from high school was frequently at our home. Only God could have brought all together.

In the last months, I sometimes let the family take my wife to the doctor and radiation treatments from time to time without me. It allowed them to help and see what she was going through. I let her sisters go to the oncologist and hear the reports first hand. Allowing this improved their engagement in caregiving.

21.2 The Lord is My Helper

Part of caring for a person with a chronic illness is allowing the Lord to be your helper.

When you or our loved one faces a chronic or severe illness, you need the Lord’s help as our helper. You also need the courage to face the next hour and the challenges of everyday living. With Christ, you can meet each day without fear.

21.3 Bible Verse

Hebrews 13:6 (KJV), “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

21.4 What the Verse Means

Without any hesitation or doubt, in all times of difficulty when we don’t know how to pray or how we will make it even through the night, we have an assurance that God will not leave us to suffer.

What can we fear if we have the assurance that the Lord is on our side, and that he will help us?

We fear nothing. Man can do no more to us than God permits, and no more than will be for our good.

We know under whatever trials we may face, we need to be under no extreme anxiety, for God will be our protector and our friend.

21.5 Pray Using Scripture

  • Heavenly Father, help me to cling to You and keep our total trust in You.
  • Lord Jesus, give us the courage to say, You are our helper.
  • We pray for fear to flee from us. We will not fear what man or disease shall do unto us.

21.6 Responding to God’s Hope

  1. Are you trying to do it all yourself? Be honest.
  2. Do your friends and family that have offered to help with the caregiving? List them by name. Consider allowing them to assist. 
  3. You are not a failure or letting your loved one down if you need to have help. Do you belong to a Bible fellowship class that can help? Maybe there is a ladies Bible study group that would help. How about friends or family? For example, make them aware that you could use someone for sitting with your loved one when you go buy groceries. 

21.7 Takeaway

With Christ, you can meet each day without fear.


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The Lord is My Helper

The Lord is My Helper

Part of learning to care for a person with a chronic illness is allowing the Lord to be your helper.

When you or our loved one faces a chronic or severe illness, you need the Lord’s help as our helper. You also need the courage to face the next hour and the challenges of everyday living. With Christ, you can meet each day without fear.

My Story

When my wife was diagnosed with Melanoma cancer my heart broke. I promised myself I would be there for her. I would be there in good times. I would be there in bad times. I would care for her and celebrate every time we received good news. I would be there to hold, comfort, and pray for her when the news was bad and when she had a bad day.

My ego initially got in the way as I wanted to prove to the world I was the super, best husband ever. I wanted to model for the world how to one your wife and care for her. 

I think if I were totally honest I wanted the pat on the back and acclaim of family, coworkers, and friends for being the gold-standard in caregiving. I know I also wanted a well done from Jesus.

After her initial surgery, many people offered help. I took off a couple of weeks from work to care for her. Her sisters flew into town to see how she was doing and help. 

All this time I decline more help than I accepted. My Bible fellowship class provided meals and gift cards. They were a blessing. Over time we settled into the long adjustment to the treatments, new normal, and fewer offers of help and my continued stubbornness to accept help.

As time passed I grew weary and had caregiving start to consume most of my waking hours especially when she had follow-up surgeries. Yet through this time, I found myself feeling guilty when someone else helped.  I felt like a failure. It was as if I wasn’t doing it all myself, I wasn’t being the man or husband I was supposed to be.

During her 1001 days after the surgery, I was faithful in sending time with the Lord. However, the caregiving took a toll. I developed oral lichen planus, lichen planus, and irritable bowel disease while caring for my spouse.  All are autoimmune diseases and the medical know-it-alls think stress can contribute to the diseases. You can see how poorly I handled everything.

I wonder how much more challenging it would have been if I hadn’t spent time with the Lord on a daily basis and asked him for his help? In the last five months of my wife’s life, I had someone with me daily helping. I know God touched my wife’s sisters’ heart to be with her. Even when she passed away she was surrounded by family. I was holding her hand and talking with her. Her sisters were present. All three of our children were there. Her best girlfriend from high school was present. Only God could have brought all together.

I let the family take my wife to the doctor and to radiation treatments from time to time without me. It allowed them to help and see what she was going through. I allowed her sisters to go to the oncologist and hear the reports first hand. Allowing this improved their engagement in caregiving.

Bible Verse

Hebrews 13:6 (KJV), “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

What the Verse Means

Without any hesitation or doubt, in all times of difficulty when we don’t know how to pray or how we will make it even through the night, we have an assurance that God will not leave us to suffer.

What can we fear if we have the assurance that the Lord is on our side, and that he will help us?

We fear nothing. Man can do no more to us than God permits, and no more than will be for our own good.

We know under whatever trials we may be placed, we need be under no extreme anxiety, for God will be our protector and our friend.

Pray Using Scripture

  • Heavenly Father, help us to cling to you and keep our total trust in you.
  • Lord Jesus, give us the courage to say you are our helper.
  • We pray for fear to flee from us. We will not fear what man or disease shall do unto us.

Responding to God’s Hope

  1. Are you trying to do it all yourself? Be honest. 
  2. Do you have friends and family that have offered to help with the caregiving? List them by name. Consider allowing them to assist.
  3. You are not a failure or letting your loved one down if you have help. Do you have a Bible fellowship class to provide assistance? A ladies Bible study group? Friends? Family? For example, make them aware that you could use someone to sit with your loved one when you go buy groceries.

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This blog post is adapted from the forthcoming book, “Hope for the Caregiver: A Biblical Alternative to the Traditional Approach” by Jimmie Aaron Kepler, Ed.D.

Helper

Part of learning to live with a chronic illness is allowing the Lord to be your helper.

When you or our loved one faces a chronic or severe illness, you need the Lord’s help as our helper. You also need the courage to face the next hour and the challenges of everyday living. With Christ, you can meet each day without fear.

Today’s Bible Verse:

Hebrews 13:6 (KJV), “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

What the Verse Means:

Without any hesitation or doubt, in all times of difficulty when we don’t know how to pray or how we will make it even through the night, we have an assurance that God will not leave us to suffer.

What can we fear if we have the assurance that the Lord is on our side, and that he will help us?

We fear nothing. Man can do no more to us than God permits, and no more than will be for our own good.

We know under whatever trials we may be placed, we need be under no extreme anxiety, for God will be our protector and our friend.

Personalized Prayer Using Today’s Scripture:

  • Heavenly Father, help us to cling to you and keep our total trust in you.
  • Lord Jesus, give us the courage to say you are our helper.
  • We pray for fear to flee from us. We will not fear what man or disease shall do unto us.

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Thy Will Be Done

Today’s blog post is from the book “Thy Will Be Done: 60 Prayers for the Chronically Ill” by Jimmie Aaron Kepler. It is available in print and on Kindle for Amazon at Amazon Print or Amazon Kindle.

If you are an Amazon Kindle Unlimited member the book is available to read for free in Kindle format. Over the next two months, I will publish each chapter as a blog post

Helper

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When we or our loved one faces a chronic or serious illness, we need the Lord’s helper. We also need the courage to face the next hour and the challenges of everyday living. With Christ, we can face each day without fear.

We also need the courage to face the next hour and the challenges of everyday living. With Christ, we can face each day without fear.

With Christ, we can face each day without fear.

The Lord’s help is available. How do you get it you ask? Through prayer. You ask God the Father through Jesus Christ the Son.

Today’s Bible Verse:

Hebrews 13:6 (KJV), “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

What the verse means:

Without any hesitation or doubt, in all times of difficulty when we don’t know how to pray or how we will make it even through the night, we have an assurance that God will not leave us to suffer.

What can we fear if we have the assurance that the Lord is on our side, and that he will help us?

We fear nothing. Man can do no more to us than God permits, and no more than will be for our own good. We know under whatever trials we may be placed, we need be under no painful anxiety, for God will be our protector and our friend.

Praying using the verses:

  1. Heavenly Father, help us to cling to You and keep our total trust in You.
  2. Lord, give us the courage to say You are our helper.
  3. We pray for fear to flee from us. We will not fear what man shall do unto me.

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Anxiety

As a caregiver of someone who is chronically ill, you may find yourself feeling alone and as helpless as the person living with the illness.

Maybe you belong to a support group. Support groups are wonderful and recommended.

Maybe extended family pitches in and helps … when they can. Great.

Maybe you have even placed yourself or loved on your church’s prayer list. Fantastic.

While others praying for you is wonderful, you need to keep up your own time with God.

  • Step one is accepting Him as Lord and Saviour.
  • Step two is reading from the Bible.
  • Step three is praying. Just share what is in your heart. For example, we can tell the Lord we are scared, tired, worn out, or worried. He listens. He cares.
  • Step four is to claim the promise that the Lord is our helper.

Today’s Bible Verse:

Hebrews 13:6 (KJV), “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”

What the verse means:

Today’s verse tells us to boldly say, the Lord is my helper. It adds that in Christ we can have victory over fear.

Praying using the verses:

  1. Without any hesitation or doubt, In all times of difficulty when we don’t know how to pray or how we will make it even through the night, we have an assurance that God will not leave us to suffer.
  2. What can we fear if we have the assurance that the Lord is on our side, and that he will help us?
  3. We fear nothing. Man can do no more to us than God permits, and no more than will be for our own good.
  4. We know under whatever trials we may be placed, we need be under no painful anxiety, for God will be our protector and our friend.

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Jimmie Aaron Kepler is a novelist, poet, book reviewer, and award-winning short story writer. His work has appeared in over twenty venues, including Bewildering Stories and Beyond Imagination. When not writing each morning at his favorite coffee house, he supports his writing, reading, and book reviewing habit working as an IT application support engineer. He is a former Captain in the US Army.  He holds a Bachelor of Arts in History with minors in English and military science from The University of Texas at Arlington, Master of Arts and Master of Religious Education degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, as well as the Doctor of Education degree. In his mid-forties, he returned to college completing the core curriculum for a computer science degree. His blog Kepler’s Book Reviews was named a 100 best blogs for history buffs. He is an author. His books and collections available on Amazon.