The Source of Real Peace

The Source of Real Peace 9.1 My Story I thought I was Superman. I believed I could handle anything that would come my way in caring for my wife as she battled Melanoma cancer. I was wrong. Over Mother’s Day Weekend in May 2016, my wife started an eleven-month treatment with prescription chemotherapy medications. In… Continue reading The Source of Real Peace

How to Use Your Remaining Time

How to Use Your Remaining Time 8.1 My Story “How long …” I asked the question doctors dread to hear. How long will my wife live?  I had spoken those words to the physician when my mother had her kidney transplant. I also said those two words when I took my ninety-years old father to… Continue reading How to Use Your Remaining Time

The Therapeutic Value of Romantic Comedies

The Therapeutic Value of Romantic Comedies 7.1 My Story There is nothing funny about a spouse having a chronic or terminal illness. There indeed isn’t anything comical about caring for them and all the nuisances involved with the daily routine. Over the years, I had heard time and time again that opposites attract. My experience… Continue reading The Therapeutic Value of Romantic Comedies

Any Delay Could Be Life Threatening

Any Delay Could Be Life Threatening 6.1 My Story “I need your decision on starting radiation treatment. What have decided?” asked the surgical oncologist. “Not today. I can’t make a decision today,” said my wife with angst in her voice. It was apparent she was overwhelmed with everything. “Any delay could be life-threatening at the… Continue reading Any Delay Could Be Life Threatening

How to Have Real Deliverance

How to Have Real Deliverance 5.1 My Story Miss Benita left arm had started swelling up. The wrist and hand also were puffed up. Both were getting noticeably larger day by day.  My wife called the surgical oncologist for instructions on managing the swelling. This surgeon referred my wife to the managing oncologist. One day… Continue reading How to Have Real Deliverance

How to Rest in God

How to Rest in God 4.1 My Story You may be like my late wife when she was battling Stage Four Melanoma cancer. She found herself very tired. She needed rest.  My daily caregiving of my wife also left me weary. Like my wife, I needed rest. The managing of my wife’s schedule required a… Continue reading How to Rest in God

You Have Permission to Cry

You Have Permission to Cry 3.1 My Story “I removed the tumor. The tests also showed it has spread to your wife’s lymph nodes. I removed thirty-four lymph nodes,” said the surgical oncologist. I stared at the doctor. She was slowly becoming out of focus as I became teary-eyed. I knew the initial diagnosis of… Continue reading You Have Permission to Cry

How to be Courageous

How to be Courageous 2.1 My Story One of the first thoughts I had when my wife received the diagnosis that she had stage three Melanoma was how am I going to care for her and love her unconditionally until she dies. I knew the Melanoma was going to kill her unless God intervened. I… Continue reading How to be Courageous

What’s With The Bloody Spot?

What’s With The Bloody Spot? 1.1 My Story “What’s going on? What’s with the bloody spot?” I asked, pointing to the half-dollar sized strain on the lower left front of my wife Benita’s blouse. My heart was aching. It looked terrible, scary. I knew this couldn’t be good. Miss Benita gazed down toward the damp… Continue reading What’s With The Bloody Spot?

Caregiving: Biblical Insights From a Caregiver’s Journey

Chronic Illness When you learn your loved one has a chronic illness, your hopes and dreams may be erased, replaced by feelings of hopelessness. You may feel overwhelmed or even afraid as you look ahead at the day-to-day struggles of caregiving. Biblical Guidance and Support Caregiving: Biblical Insights From a Caregiver’s Journey offers Biblical guidance… Continue reading Caregiving: Biblical Insights From a Caregiver’s Journey